Contributed by Jennifer Germaine, Founder of Breathe Fire Into Life

Imagine this…

Your days are spacious and you have time to play and laugh
You feel pleasure throughout your five senses
You feel loved, cherished, original, and lucky to be living life your way
You marvel at the opportunities coming to you easily and the effortless support others provide you
You feel fabulous and people LOVE being around you
You naturally attract abundance with joy and ease and naturally emit the feeling of abundance to all those you meet

All of these feelings describe your state of being. If you're looking for an abundance of wealth in your business, relationships, and mindset, you must harness your magnetism. Simply put: Your state of being is your 'magnet,' and it attracts more of the same into your world. In this article, we’ll explore how to elevate and expand your magnetism with five up-leveled ways of being.

1. Be Uniquely You

Increasing your magnetic vibration begins with seeing how uniquely beautiful, brilliant, and gifted you are. There is only one person like you, so why pretend to be anyone other than yourself? You were born into the exact circumstances needed to bring your unique message and way of seeing the world to the rest of us. You are a guide to all of us when you fully embrace your uniqueness in everything you do. 

In realizing the depth of your uniqueness, you step out of the competitive realm and into creativity. Creation mode is where you thrive and set yourself apart from everyone else in your industry, so it's important to ignite and fuel your creativity. 

• Ignite your creativity by leaning into your unique self and message, the unique experiences you provide your clients, and the unique way you attract new clients

• Fuel your ignited creativity by fully embracing the fact that there is an abundance of special clients and team members waiting to work with you

2. Be Seen In a Bigger Way

I know you. You got into business to create change and make an impact in this world. But when business feels tough, and life gets busy, you forget that your greatest purpose and "why" is bigger than you. You're being called to express yourself in a bigger way and honor your "why." Maybe that means expressing yourself in videos online, starting a podcast or show, writing a book, or getting on bigger stages and platforms. Whatever this is for you, you're ready to share your truth and your message in a bigger way. But maybe fear is holding you back. 

Many of us fear expressing ourselves in a big way. We worry about fitting in and being liked, we fear taking up too much time or space, or we’re uncomfortable with the way we look. Deep inside your psyche, you have hidden fears, doubts, and worries - and they can keep you from truly expressing yourself. These hidden fears are natural - we've been conditioned to fit into the crowd, play it safe, and stay small. There was likely a time in your life when your unique voice was dishonored and repressed, and that created fear. But your fear, doubt, and worry is just an internal box that you have created, and it keeps you trapped.

You are ready to combat your internal fear and stand out from the crowd, but you’re not sure how. The first step is to notice the moments when you contract amongst others. Perhaps your body tightens, you get anxiousness in your belly or chest, or your voice feels stuck in your throat. Instead of running away from the uncomfortable feelings you are having at the moment, pause and slow down. The discomfort you are experiencing is guiding you and illuminating your path forward. Honor your discomfort for lovingly showing you what needs to be cleared for the world to see you. Learn more about this in step 3.

3. Set Your Emotions Free and Rise

Your emotions are the gatekeeper to a more magnetic you. Numbing or pushing down emotions causes the energy in your body to become stagnant, contracted, and tight. By “swallowing your emotions,” you are literally filling your body with negative emotions and magnifying those negative emotions out into every aspect of your life.

How to Handle Negative Emotions

The key to shifting to higher levels of magnetism is by clearing the old, stagnant, dark, and hard feeling emotions. Whether grief, anger, sadness, despair, desperation, or even numbing - the more you allow these emotions to come out of you, the clearer you will become.

If you have been pushing down your emotions for a lifetime, it may feel heavy to do this initially. You may feel you will never get to the other side, but you will, and it will feel like freedom. You will feel more alive than ever, and you will easily be able to allow a moment of anger or sadness to come up and out of you like a bubble you gleefully run after and pop out of a bubble maker.

How to Handle Positive Emotions

On the opposite scale, when you feel moments of immense joy, laughter, glee, and delight, choose not to dim your light to match others around you. Instead, choose to shine even more brightly.

“I once was asked in a group setting what my confidence level was on a scale of 1-10. I knew in my heart that mine was a 12! I felt radiant and glowing from every aspect of my being. But the first person in the group to share their number was a dear friend who reported she was at a 5 or a 6. I instantly noticed anxiousness creeping up in my body – did I have a right to claim my ecstatic 12 in front of others who felt a 5 or 6? I allowed those feelings to come up and out of me and concluded I was confident in my self-rating, and by choosing to share my 12 with the group, I illuminated and inspired others to keep pursuing more ecstatic states of confidence and pleasure in their life.”

4. Deepen Your Intimacy With Yourself and Others

All problems in our business start with the same element: Humans. You are treating humans no matter what you are selling, and must remember to treat them first.

Treat Yourself

The first human you must treat is yourself. Take time every day to check in with yourself - How are you doing? What is coming up for you? Only by becoming fully present with yourself in each moment and showering yourself with radical self-love will you be able to radiate out your presence and the love you have for what you do.

Treat Others: Patch Adams

I encourage you to embrace the teachings of Patch Adams more in your world. Patch Adams was one of my favorite movies when I was growing up. Patch Adams was in medical school and adopted a radical approach to helping his patients - he took the time to truly listen and be present with them. He felt his patients' heaving feelings and pain as if they were his pain and feelings. He treated each patient as a friend and broke down the divide between a doctor and a patient. Become more like Patch Adams by practicing full presence with another to experience a person in the moment. Be curious about what is going on for this person and be willing to ask deeper questions to see the individuals you serve on a deeper level. Magic happens when you break down the traditional barriers that keep you from fully seeing, listening to, embracing, and experiencing humans on a deeper level. 

5. Choose Pleasure, Laughter, and Play Every Day

The absolute number one tip I have for you to magnetize abundance in your life is to feel pleasure, laughter, and play in every moment of your day. You can nail every one of my other tips with perfection, but if you are not cultivating a relationship with these three things every day, your magnetism will be lackluster.

Think about when you have been around individuals that exude confidence, delight, and charm. You feel completely drawn to them. Think Beyonce, George Clooney, or Brene Brown. They have a magnetic authenticity and love for their life that naturally draws you in. They don’t post every day on social media. They aren’t on every TV show. It isn’t about a to-do list and doing more for them, it’s quite the opposite. They cultivate space in their life to feel passionate, alive, and free for themselves first. Then their internal magnetism radiates out from them as abundance to all.

Creating a life you love happens in each moment – not at a future destination that you are hustling, churning, and grinding to experience eventually. Imagine this as the ultimate training program for your happiness and abundance to elevate and expand your magnetism.

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About Jennifer

Jennifer Germaine helps women entrepreneurs be more magnetic in their businesses and life. She fully believes you can create the life of your dreams by developing every aspect of your life to fit your highest desires and best self. Jennifer allowed her outside world to dictate her path forward for most of her life, including how she defined her success. Jennifer scaled her law firm to a national practice speaking on stages as a thought leader in the male-dominated construction industry, only to realize that on the inside, she was broken and feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and exhausted in her daily life. She chose to flip the script on her experience by studying with top masters of mindset, business strategy, and spirituality to reconstruct a life that was more beautiful than she could have ever dreamed. Now, she helps others breathe fire into their lives and become the most brilliant and magnetic versions of themselves.

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